Reconnecting with Pet Play

Sometimes – often – life gets in the way and we lose touch with parts of ourselves. 

These parts can be our hobbies, friends, lifestyles or – to be on topic – kink.

Job changes, injuries, illness, study, even breakups can all leave us feeling disconnected from parts of ourselves that we really value. 

This happened to me last year… repeatedly.

So 

While I’m still working on reconnecting with many sides of myself 

I wanted to write here about how I’m rebuilding my connection with my pet side

To both acknowledge my progress and hopefully help others out there who are going through something similar. 

When I first realised that I’d lost touch with my pet side I tried to overcompensate by organising a pet play scene 

ASAP!

It went.. poorly to say the least. 

I dropped almost as soon as the scene started

My poor Top at the time, 

they were so supportive 

but it was definitely not how we wanted our Saturday afternoon to go!

In hindsight going from 0 – 100 wasn’t my brightest idea. 

So I started taking things step by step. 

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Step 1 – Lurking

I started by lurking as creepy as it sounds

Browsing the online pet communities, reading discussions on fet, checking out my kinky instagram again 

Just trying to bring the idea of pet play back into my everyday life so my brain could ‘warm up’ to it again. 

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Step 2 – Making Connections

After a while I began growing more comfortable with the idea of pet play again and began attending events and connecting with other pet players. 

I spent time making ears for pets, planning blog posts and discussing ideas. 

I shifted my focus away from getting my pet side back to supporting and encouraging others in exploring pet play

This really helped to take the pressure I had been putting on myself to reconnect with my pet play.

And

By interacting with pet play without pressure or expectations

My pet side has slowly but surely began to surface again!

Funny that

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Step 4 – Indulging yourself

When this happened I did my best to respond positively.

I would make a point to wander through the pet sections of Dollar stores and if a toy or collar caught my eye (within reason) I’d get it.

I began to ask for pats from others when the mood struck.

For the first time in months I unpacked my pet gear

And made a point to leave a pair of ears and a pet toy or two out in my room for when the mood strikes.

A big moment in reconnecting my pet side was giving my pet space a name!

yes.. I’ve been into pet play for years now and have only recently found a name that I love – but hey, these things can take awhile!

After I found a name that stuck – Mochi – I got a tag engraved

I’m also going to be changing my name here on Pet Haven to match!

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Step 5 – Participation… adjacent

At this stage I personally am not ready for a pet play scene (even just by myself) so I’m expanding my comfort zone by hanging out with pets in their pet spaces.

I am lucky enough to have made some wonderful connections with pets that are comfy with me existing amongst them whilst they are in their pet spaces. 

Watching them play, giving them pats, being smothered in a pet cuddle piles is reminding me how much fun pet play and pet scenes can be – when I’m ready for them again. 

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As of *date* I am still at Step 5 – as things progress through the year I will be adding updates on lessons learnt!

If any of you have advice for me or your own experiences in reconnecting with your pet/sub/kink sides I’d love to hear about them! 

-Mochi –