Begginners Guide to Pet Play – How to get into Pet Space

Begginners Guide to Pet Play – How to get into Pet Space

Photo by akiba kameko

First of all, what is pet space?

Pet space is a flavour of subspace like the “rope high” or “little space”. 

Subspace is a broad umbrella term for the endorphin rush experienced by the s-type or bottom during a BDSM scene. 

Tops also experience this endorphin rush but that is a whole other post.


You wont hit a subspace or pet space every time you play. You don’t need to hit subspace to play nor do you need to hit it to be a “good”™ submissive. 

The Key to hitting Pet Space

(or atleast increasing your chances)




Whatever you want to call them, these are the easiest way to signal to your (or your pets) brain that it is a good time to shift gears into pet space.

Our brains are really amazing in this way. They process so much information all the time that they create shortcuts (like computer keyboards) to keep up. We can hack into this system and create our own shortcuts to achieve whatever we want.

This has been life changing for both my kink and vanilla life. 

Like our computer keyboards

Ctrl + B = Bold Font

Lo Fi music + Rope + rope bunny = Rope space (for my owner)

Pet gear + soft things = Pet space (for me)

When using this system the more ques/rituals/patterns (specific to your pet space) you give your brain to create shortcuts the easier it will be for your brain to learn and remember them.

As an example for how you can use these cues and patterns this is 

How I get into Pet space with my Owner 

Before getting into pet space it is important for me to be relaxed so I will often shower and change before any scene. It’s also important to check in that we are both in the physical and mental state to play and to reaffirm consent for play (this is really important to my Owner and has over time become really important for me to relax into any kind of subspace)

When these needs have been met for both of us my Owner will usually have me sit on the floor/bed and start off by helping me put on my pet gear. 

Putting on my pet gear has become a ritual of sorts between the two of us which goes something like this 

First I’ll put on my knee pads (safety first)

Then I need to Sit Pretty so he can put on my ears – which I always end up adjusting

After my ears have been appropriately fussed over it’s Paws Up and he will put on either my paw gloves or mitts. 

Then Ears Down to put on my collar

And Finally Tail up to insert my tail

This little ritual goes alongside a lot – and I mean a lot of praise, pats and scritches.

As well as this ritual we also make use of movement and speech restrictions (I am expected to be on all fours and I can only make cat noises during scenes – unless otherwise instructed) 

I am also only referred to as kitten during these scenes and my Owner has this voice in pet scenes that just makes me melt into a puddle of cat girl goo.

This works for both me and my owner – But this isn’t going to work for everyone so here is 

A list of ideas you can try

  • Pet names – Call your pet by a specific name during pet play such as kitten/pup or ‘name’ your pet (one of my partners pet side went by sapphire)
  • Pet play gear eg Collars or harnesses, Ears, tails, Mitts etc.
  • Pet play specific foods and or treats (having these for your pet play can also work as incentive if/when you decide to train your pet – two for one!)
  • Toys! I personally am obsessed with the ones that make noises – squeaker’s, crinkles… bells!
  • Have safe spot set up for your pet this can be a cage, pet bed or even just a pile of pillows and blankets on the floor
  • Use a start and/or finish phrase to begin and end your scenes – “Id like to play with my Pet now please” “does my pet want to come out and play with me?”
  • Patting your pet like would do to a kitten, pup, fox, horse etc.
  • Use pet play command words – once you’ve trained your pet going through a few at the start of a scene is a great cue. Here is a post on Pup Training and Kitten Training.


  • I find pet play specific rules and protocols help me to maintain my pet space
  • Movement restriction – only being allowed to crawl on all fours, no use of fingers/hands (mitts can be helpful to enforce this rule)
  • Speech restrictions – no or little human speech, only allowed to communicate through animal noises etc
  • No pets on the furniture
  • Pets can only eat from bowls or when their owner hand feeds them
  • Pets can not open doors – if they want to get into areas of the house they have to beg

For more links check out

Submissive guide

Stray wolf’s tumblr

Evie Lupin

What is kitten play?

What is kitten play?

Kitten Play is a type of pet play where the “pet” takes on the role of a cat and their partner (if they have one) usually acts as their owner

Unlike Puppy or Pony play, the Kitten Play community began developing online in the late 90’s – so kitten play is still pretty new!

In this post we will look at;

  • Types of Kittens
  • Types of Tops
  • Activities
  • Gear
  • Where to find out more

Types of Kittens

Domesticated – Kittens with a submissive and affectionate nature.

Stray – A kitten that does not have an owner/partner.

Feral – A kitten who is not submissive in nature. Feral kittens tend to be more bratty and sometimes dominant within scenes

Types of Tops

Unlike pony and puppy play Kitten Play has… less defined roles when it comes to Tops… so I’m just going to show you my understanding of tops in kitten play

Master/Mistress – I have often seen this used when people pet play interlinks closely with other D/s dynamics or in those who enjoy the more old guard flavor of BDSM

Owner – A person who owns and cares for their kitten.

Keeper – A person who cares for a kitten or kittens. From what I have seen those who use this name usually have more of a focus on a caregiver-ish dynamic.


Training – Training most often includes position training. Your kitten can also be taught to perform tricks and walk on a leash.

Naps – Cat naps ♡.♡ I mean is there anything better for a kitten? 

Play – Playing! Whether is 18+ play or a ball of yarn, playing with your kitten is key to burning off all that extra energy (and preventing the mischief that seems to follow over energetic kittens)

Grooming – Grooming can cover a range of activities like; patting your kitten while you are relaxing together, brushing or playing with their hair, massages or, if you’re brave enough, baths! Most grooming activities are a great way to bond.

Kitten Play Gear

Ears – For many ears are an important identifier of being a kitten and a signal that kitten time is starting or ending. With ears being available in clips or headbands, faux fur or metal. There are as many styles as you can possibly imagine! 

Tails – Tails can also be used as signals or identifiers of a kittens head space. They come in as many styles as ears and attaching tails can ben  managed in various (and fun) ways.

Collars – Tug proof ribbon collars are most often seen in Kitten play but any and all types of collars are used depending on the kitten. Collars can be as part of a collaring ceremony (like a wedding band) or as a symbol that the kitten is a kitten. again, It’s all up to the person (or kitten) who is wearing the collar.

Paws – Using mitts can take away the kittens ability to use their fingers and/or hands – adding to their pet space or acting as a form of bondage. 
Knee Pads – Knee pads!! I have recently been reminded how much knee injuries suck. If you like to crawl in your pet space please please please protect your knees and always use knee pads!

Where to find out more

Blogs like kitten and the chateau

Youtubers such as screamkiwi and of course Evie Lupin

Online communities on Instagram and Fetlife are awesome to make connections with other kittens

Photo by WIDEANGLE@108dB

What is Puppy Play

What is Puppy Play

Puppy Play is a type of pet play where the “pet” takes on the role of a canine and their partner (if they have one) often takes on the role of an owner/trainer/handler

Puppy play as we know it began in the leather community after the 2nd world war.

Now days puppy play has become hugely popular within BDSM communities!

In this post we will look at;

  • Types of Pups
  • Types of Humans
  • Activities
  • Gear
  • Where to find out more

Types of Pups

Some common puppy types pet players identify with are:

Puppies – Puppies are the over excitable, playful and super enthusiastic puppy player.

 Puppies or pups is also used as an umbrella name for puppy player.

Strays – Pups who are not collared or do not have an owner/trainer/handler

Alphas – Alpha’s tend to be the top dogs around the other pups. Alphas can take a leadership role within packs or at community events 

Sometimes they will even exert this dominance over their humans as well. 

Show Dogs – This type of pup generally enjoys training for a purpose and showmanship. This is often to compete in competitions like obedience or agility but it can also just be for the fun of it!

Types of Humans

Handlers – those who care for and train one or more pups. This is the most common term used for humans in puppy play and can act as a blanket term if your not sure of the human/pup player dynamic.

Owners – those who “own” the pup. They are incharge of caring for their pup much like a Handler but the title itself gives off more of a power dynamic vibe

Trainers – those who teach and discipline puppy girls and boys to excel in their (or their dominants) chosen interests. 

Companions – those who interact and play with pups without necessarily being in charge of training or caring for them.


Training – Basic training often includes simple command words (sit, stay, beg), and positioning training.

Moshes – Moshes are like a big puppy play-date. these events provide a safe space for pups to play and wrestle with one another (Called moshing). Moshes are also an opportunity for handlers to spend some time socializing too!

Shows – Human pup competitions take place all over the world and can be a great opportunity to meet up and make new friends in the pup community. Competing in the shows is entirely optional and can be a ton of fun if you want to try it out!


Puppy Play gear is varied and personalized depending on you, your pup space and/or your dynamics. Gear isn’t needed to be a puppy player but it can be a fun way to express yourself!

Some common pieces of gear in Puppy Play are;

Hoods – can be used to help pups look more pup-ish or as a form of sensory deprivation. Hoods are often made of leather or rubber and come in a range of styles and colours to suit any pup!

Ears – ears can be a part of hoods or come on headbands/clips. Ears are often made with faux fur if they’re on headbands. They can be a super fun way to add to the feeling of being a pup without using a hood

Mitts – mitts can be padded or not and are mainly used to remove the pups ability to use their fingers/hands.

Harness – Harnesses can be used for aesthetic, bondage or as attachment points

Collar – collars can be aesthetic or symbolic depending on you and your dynamic

Tails – tails come in a ton of different styles to match ears, masks or whatever style you want. Tails also come with the option of being inserted or attached through harnesses, belt loops or tying around the waist depending in personal preference

Knee pads – Knee pads!! I have recently learnt how much knee injuries suck. If you like to crawl in your pup space please please please protect your knees and always use knee pads!

Where to find out more

To find out more about Puppy play check out

Blogs like Nerdy Doggo and Deviance and Desire

Evie Lupines videos

And online communities like fetlife

Photo by istolethetv


What is Pony Play

What is Pony Play

Pony Play is a type of pet play where the “pet” role plays as a horse and their partner (if they have one) takes on the role of a trainer, rider, owner or groom.

Pony Girls taken by Derek Bridges

Pony Plays is one of the first forms of documented BDSM Animal Roleplay – think 1900’s and even earlier!

It’s know for its extravagant ‘tack’ (or pony play gear), in depth training and that lovely power exchange I and many others adore.

In this post we are going to look at

  • Types of Ponies
  • Types of Tops
  • Activities
  • Tack
  • Where you can find out more

Types of Ponies

Show Ponies  – Ponies trained in different gaits (walk, trot, canter, gallop like bio-ponies), tricks and modelling of Tack with a focus on showmanship

Cart Ponies – Ponies who are trained to pull sulkies or small carts on two or four legs

Riding Ponies – Ponies who are ridden by their owners. These ponies can be ridden with or without a saddle and on two or four legs

Please note that the role of a cart or riding pony is physically challenging! Your or your ponies physical abilities should be taken into account to keep safe and keep playing!

Types of Tops

Owners – The Owner is whoever owns the pony. They are in charge of caring for their pony or delegating that care to another. Owners can sometimes loan out their pony girls or boys to others for shows, riding or other activities.

Riders – Anyone who rides the pony or in a cart the pony is pulling can be referred to as a Rider however some prefer the term just to be used for their Top.

Trainers – Trainers are the teachers and disciplinarians of pony girls and boys. Trainers help guide and support ponies to excel in their (or their Tops) chosen interests. 

Groomers – Grooming can take many forms such as bathing, rubbing down or dressing the pony in their tack. Groomers are those who have a main focus and/or interest in this kind of interaction.


One of the biggest parts of pony play is Training!

Pony girls and boys are often trained from the ground up starting with manners; like staying still when being tied up or groomed.

Then they start learning different gaits (walk, trot and cantering) and how to be safely led using reins.

Some ponies go on to be trained to pull carts or perform tricks!

Some other activities that are commonly seen in pony play are

Grooming – bathing, brushing down and generally caring for your pony’s wellbeing is a beloved part of pony play and can be a great way to bond and provide aftercare in pony play scenes.

Veterinary play – combining this type of play can take many forms including physical examinations, “shots”, castration and breeding roleplays (the old fashion way or by artificial insemination).

As you have probably guessed Veterinary play can overlap with edge play so remember your Safe Sane Consensual and Risk Aware Consensual Kink practices!

All activities depend on the pony, their owner and the negotiations that have happened behind the scenes.


Photo taken by Liesbeth den Toom

Tack is the equipment used for bio horses. this term is also used for the accessories and gear used within pony play.

Like any form of animal roleplay you don’t need gear but many enjoy it. 

Pony Play in particular is known for its more extravagant Tack – usually modelled by the lovely show ponies

Common pieces of tack include (but are definitely not limited to!)

Tails – attached via butt plug or to a harness.

Hooves – hooves can come in the form of shoes and gloves and function as both bondage and added realism for ponies.

Masks – These can be used as a form sensory deprivation by restricting the ponies eyesight and increasing their reliance on their Owner for guidance. Masks can also be used to help pony girls and boys look more like ponies.

Bits and bridles – Bits and bridles are used to control the ponies head. Bits commonly go in the ponies mouth and bridles can be attached to increase the amount of control the owner has over the ponies head. Bits and bridles will often be attached to riens or some form of lead so the owner can control the pony from a distance.

Harnesses – Harnesses can act as another form of bandage, be decorative or used as attachment points for tails, carts and reins.

Bodysuits – Can be used as a way to cover up a pony for community events, incorporate other fetishes such as latex and add to the overall aesthetic of the pony depending on your goals.

Where to find out more

Check out Fetlife for their community pages

This Blog by CPony is an incredible resource for anyone interested in Pony Play!

I hope this was helpful!