Begginners Guide to Pet Play – How to get into Pet Space

Begginners Guide to Pet Play – How to get into Pet Space

Photo by akiba kameko

First of all, what is pet space?

Pet space is a flavour of subspace like the “rope high” or “little space”. 

Subspace is a broad umbrella term for the endorphin rush experienced by the s-type or bottom during a BDSM scene. 

Tops also experience this endorphin rush but that is a whole other post.


Disclaimer

You wont hit a subspace or pet space every time you play. You don’t need to hit subspace to play nor do you need to hit it to be a “good”™ submissive. 


The Key to hitting Pet Space

(or atleast increasing your chances)

Rituals 

Cues

Patterns 

Whatever you want to call them, these are the easiest way to signal to your (or your pets) brain that it is a good time to shift gears into pet space.

Our brains are really amazing in this way. They process so much information all the time that they create shortcuts (like computer keyboards) to keep up. We can hack into this system and create our own shortcuts to achieve whatever we want.

This has been life changing for both my kink and vanilla life. 

Like our computer keyboards

Ctrl + B = Bold Font

Lo Fi music + Rope + rope bunny = Rope space (for my owner)

Pet gear + soft things = Pet space (for me)

When using this system the more ques/rituals/patterns (specific to your pet space) you give your brain to create shortcuts the easier it will be for your brain to learn and remember them.

As an example for how you can use these cues and patterns this is 


How I get into Pet space with my Owner 

Before getting into pet space it is important for me to be relaxed so I will often shower and change before any scene. It’s also important to check in that we are both in the physical and mental state to play and to reaffirm consent for play (this is really important to my Owner and has over time become really important for me to relax into any kind of subspace)

When these needs have been met for both of us my Owner will usually have me sit on the floor/bed and start off by helping me put on my pet gear. 

Putting on my pet gear has become a ritual of sorts between the two of us which goes something like this 

First I’ll put on my knee pads (safety first)

Then I need to Sit Pretty so he can put on my ears – which I always end up adjusting

After my ears have been appropriately fussed over it’s Paws Up and he will put on either my paw gloves or mitts. 

Then Ears Down to put on my collar

And Finally Tail up to insert my tail

This little ritual goes alongside a lot – and I mean a lot of praise, pats and scritches.

As well as this ritual we also make use of movement and speech restrictions (I am expected to be on all fours and I can only make cat noises during scenes – unless otherwise instructed) 

I am also only referred to as kitten during these scenes and my Owner has this voice in pet scenes that just makes me melt into a puddle of cat girl goo.

This works for both me and my owner – But this isn’t going to work for everyone so here is 


A list of ideas you can try

  • Pet names – Call your pet by a specific name during pet play such as kitten/pup or ‘name’ your pet (one of my partners pet side went by sapphire)
  • Pet play gear eg Collars or harnesses, Ears, tails, Mitts etc.
  • Pet play specific foods and or treats (having these for your pet play can also work as incentive if/when you decide to train your pet – two for one!)
  • Toys! I personally am obsessed with the ones that make noises – squeaker’s, crinkles… bells!
  • Have safe spot set up for your pet this can be a cage, pet bed or even just a pile of pillows and blankets on the floor
  • Use a start and/or finish phrase to begin and end your scenes – “Id like to play with my Pet now please” “does my pet want to come out and play with me?”
  • Patting your pet like would do to a kitten, pup, fox, horse etc.
  • Use pet play command words – once you’ve trained your pet going through a few at the start of a scene is a great cue. Here is a post on Pup Training and Kitten Training.

Rules

  • I find pet play specific rules and protocols help me to maintain my pet space
  • Movement restriction – only being allowed to crawl on all fours, no use of fingers/hands (mitts can be helpful to enforce this rule)
  • Speech restrictions – no or little human speech, only allowed to communicate through animal noises etc
  • No pets on the furniture
  • Pets can only eat from bowls or when their owner hand feeds them
  • Pets can not open doors – if they want to get into areas of the house they have to beg

For more links check out

Submissive guide

Stray wolf’s tumblr

Evie Lupin

5 ways to wear ribbon tails

5 ways to wear ribbon tails

Here are my five favourite ways to wear tails for pet play!

With pros and cons of course


#1 Plugs

Pros

  • You can ‘feel’ your tail when its being touched
  • Your owner helping to put your tail is really hot 

Cons

  • When your tail gets pulled (ouch)
  • Restricts your clothing options
  • Definatly not fun if you don’t enjoy anal simulation

#2 Harness

Pros

  • Can be worn under or over anything
  • It’s a more realistic placement for a tail

Cons

  • Buying more specialised gear for pet play can be expensive.

#3 Belt Loops

Pros

  • All you need is bottoms with belt loops
  • Works for a range of personal styles
  • Like the harness it gives a more realistic tail placement

Cons

  • Restricts what types of clothing you can to wear
  • Restricts access to your pet

#4 Safety Pinned

Pros

  • Can be pinned to any clothing item
  • It looks so cute pinned to the underside of skirts!

Cons

  • Safety pins can look super obvious
  • You can stab yourself
  • Only works if your wearing clothes

#5 Around your waist

Pros

  • Can be done under or over clothing
  • You can choose how high or low you want your tail to be

Cons

  • The tie can easily be pulled loose when playing,
  • It can look odd depending on placement/outfit/etc

LilSuccubuss

What is kitten play?

What is kitten play?

Kitten Play is a type of pet play where the “pet” takes on the role of a cat and their partner (if they have one) usually acts as their owner

Unlike Puppy or Pony play, the Kitten Play community began developing online in the late 90’s – so kitten play is still pretty new!

In this post we will look at;

  • Types of Kittens
  • Types of Tops
  • Activities
  • Gear
  • Where to find out more

Types of Kittens

Domesticated – Kittens with a submissive and affectionate nature.

Stray – A kitten that does not have an owner/partner.

Feral – A kitten who is not submissive in nature. Feral kittens tend to be more bratty and sometimes dominant within scenes


Types of Tops

Unlike pony and puppy play Kitten Play has… less defined roles when it comes to Tops… so I’m just going to show you my understanding of tops in kitten play

Master/Mistress – I have often seen this used when people pet play interlinks closely with other D/s dynamics or in those who enjoy the more old guard flavor of BDSM

Owner – A person who owns and cares for their kitten.

Keeper – A person who cares for a kitten or kittens. From what I have seen those who use this name usually have more of a focus on a caregiver-ish dynamic.


Activities

Training – Training most often includes position training. Your kitten can also be taught to perform tricks and walk on a leash.

Naps – Cat naps ♡.♡ I mean is there anything better for a kitten? 

Play – Playing! Whether is 18+ play or a ball of yarn, playing with your kitten is key to burning off all that extra energy (and preventing the mischief that seems to follow over energetic kittens)

Grooming – Grooming can cover a range of activities like; patting your kitten while you are relaxing together, brushing or playing with their hair, massages or, if you’re brave enough, baths! Most grooming activities are a great way to bond.


Kitten Play Gear

Ears – For many ears are an important identifier of being a kitten and a signal that kitten time is starting or ending. With ears being available in clips or headbands, faux fur or metal. There are as many styles as you can possibly imagine! 

Tails – Tails can also be used as signals or identifiers of a kittens head space. They come in as many styles as ears and attaching tails can ben  managed in various (and fun) ways.

Collars – Tug proof ribbon collars are most often seen in Kitten play but any and all types of collars are used depending on the kitten. Collars can be as part of a collaring ceremony (like a wedding band) or as a symbol that the kitten is a kitten. again, It’s all up to the person (or kitten) who is wearing the collar.

Paws – Using mitts can take away the kittens ability to use their fingers and/or hands – adding to their pet space or acting as a form of bondage. 
Knee Pads – Knee pads!! I have recently been reminded how much knee injuries suck. If you like to crawl in your pet space please please please protect your knees and always use knee pads!


Where to find out more

Blogs like kitten play.com and the chateau

Youtubers such as screamkiwi and of course Evie Lupin

Online communities on Instagram and Fetlife are awesome to make connections with other kittens

Photo by WIDEANGLE@108dB

What is Puppy Play

What is Puppy Play

Puppy Play is a type of pet play where the “pet” takes on the role of a canine and their partner (if they have one) often takes on the role of an owner/trainer/handler

Puppy play as we know it began in the leather community after the 2nd world war.

Now days puppy play has become hugely popular within BDSM communities!

In this post we will look at;

  • Types of Pups
  • Types of Humans
  • Activities
  • Gear
  • Where to find out more

Types of Pups

Some common puppy types pet players identify with are:

Puppies – Puppies are the over excitable, playful and super enthusiastic puppy player.

 Puppies or pups is also used as an umbrella name for puppy player.

Strays – Pups who are not collared or do not have an owner/trainer/handler

Alphas – Alpha’s tend to be the top dogs around the other pups. Alphas can take a leadership role within packs or at community events 

Sometimes they will even exert this dominance over their humans as well. 

Show Dogs – This type of pup generally enjoys training for a purpose and showmanship. This is often to compete in competitions like obedience or agility but it can also just be for the fun of it!


Types of Humans

Handlers – those who care for and train one or more pups. This is the most common term used for humans in puppy play and can act as a blanket term if your not sure of the human/pup player dynamic.

Owners – those who “own” the pup. They are incharge of caring for their pup much like a Handler but the title itself gives off more of a power dynamic vibe

Trainers – those who teach and discipline puppy girls and boys to excel in their (or their dominants) chosen interests. 

Companions – those who interact and play with pups without necessarily being in charge of training or caring for them.


Activities!

Training – Basic training often includes simple command words (sit, stay, beg), and positioning training.

Moshes – Moshes are like a big puppy play-date. these events provide a safe space for pups to play and wrestle with one another (Called moshing). Moshes are also an opportunity for handlers to spend some time socializing too!

Shows – Human pup competitions take place all over the world and can be a great opportunity to meet up and make new friends in the pup community. Competing in the shows is entirely optional and can be a ton of fun if you want to try it out!


Gear

Puppy Play gear is varied and personalized depending on you, your pup space and/or your dynamics. Gear isn’t needed to be a puppy player but it can be a fun way to express yourself!

Some common pieces of gear in Puppy Play are;

Hoods – can be used to help pups look more pup-ish or as a form of sensory deprivation. Hoods are often made of leather or rubber and come in a range of styles and colours to suit any pup!

Ears – ears can be a part of hoods or come on headbands/clips. Ears are often made with faux fur if they’re on headbands. They can be a super fun way to add to the feeling of being a pup without using a hood

Mitts – mitts can be padded or not and are mainly used to remove the pups ability to use their fingers/hands.

Harness – Harnesses can be used for aesthetic, bondage or as attachment points

Collar – collars can be aesthetic or symbolic depending on you and your dynamic

Tails – tails come in a ton of different styles to match ears, masks or whatever style you want. Tails also come with the option of being inserted or attached through harnesses, belt loops or tying around the waist depending in personal preference

Knee pads – Knee pads!! I have recently learnt how much knee injuries suck. If you like to crawl in your pup space please please please protect your knees and always use knee pads!


Where to find out more

To find out more about Puppy play check out

Blogs like Nerdy Doggo and Deviance and Desire

Evie Lupines videos

And online communities like fetlife


Photo by istolethetv


LilSuccubuss

BDSM Kitten Play Training

BDSM Kitten Play Training

Paws up Kitten

Training and I had a rocky start to our relationship

I loved the idea of training and the obedience that would come with it. 

I started with position training first because the mental and physical challenge of position training was appealing 

Naturally I tried the first guide to position training I found 

… it just did not work for me

It was too serious and frankly intimidating for me

After a few false starts, I found this guide to kitten play command words by Sadistic Panther.

I highly HIGHLY reccomend checking out the link!!

And I fell in love

It was just so much more fun and playful and rewarding for both myself and my partners!

Over time my kitten play training has changed to fit my evolving D/s dynamics and identity as both a submissive and a pet

So this is what my Kitten play training looks like now


 Positions

Sit pretty 

How I do it. 

In this position I kneel with my knees shoulders width apart, sitting back on my feet. 

I like to have pointed toes that meet in a V behind me, because honestly it feels pretty to me. 

My hands rest on the floor between my knees and I push my chest out to give the best view of my… assets. 

My kitten side is vain, to say the least, she loves to show off and this position combined with the praise I often get for obeying hits all the right buttons for me.

Uses

  • Grooming
  • Pats
  • Putting on/removing gear (like collars, hoods, leashes etc)
  • Getting your pets attention
  • A clear start to a scene

Tail down

How I do it

This position is a variation on sit pretty where my feet are set wider apart (legs parallel or in an M shape) and my butt is firmly on the floor. I do my best to keep my butt on the ground – to try to help remind myself to and to show my Owner that I will Stay. 

Uses

  • Keep distractable kittens in one place – atleast for a li
  • Prevent mischief – I tend to steal my owners rope when theyre trying to pack up

Companion 

How I do it

This position I kneel just like in ‘Sit pretty’ but to my Owner’s right side (or wherever they indicate). If I can I will rest my head on my Owner’s lap. If I’m told ‘paws up’ in this position I will rest my ‘paws’ on their thigh. 

Uses 

  • Keeping your kitten close
  • Wind down a scene
  • A form of aftercare
  • Cuddles

Belly up 

How I do it. 

In this position I lie flat on my back with both my legs and arms partially bent and held up off the floor. My hands will usually stay or return to above my shoulders because this is where they feel the most natural.

Uses

  • Playing! Dangle rope or a feather wand above your kitten
  • Bondage
  • Sensation play
  • (consensually!) Molesting your kitten

Tail up

How I do it

I kneel like in tail down and stretch out and down until my chest touches the floor. I rest my left cheek on the floor as well to prevent bumping my head/face on the floor. I either stretch my arms out above my head or tuck my hands under my shoulders depending on how I’m feeling. And arch my back so my booty is high in the air, if I’m feeling frisky this will usually end in a butt wiggle. 

Spontaneously doing this position to show my Top that I am feeling playful and happy. 

Uses

  • Encouraging a submissive mindset in your pet 
  • Impact play
  • Inserting tail plugs
  • Booty wiggles 

Commands

Paws up 

How I do it.

I curl my fingers into my palms to create little paws and bring my hands up to my shoulders, palms out.

Uses 

  • Removes use of fingers and hands
  • Easy way to access hands/wrists for bondage
  • Combines well with most positions but works great with sit pretty/belly up

Beg 

How I do it

To beg I stand up on my knees with my hands in the paws up position. I usually follow this up with a mew or say ‘please’ depending on my or my Owner’s mood.

Uses 

  • This is a fun way to draw attention to and deepen the sense of your power dynamic
  • Feeding your pet treats
  • A way to gain enthusiastic consent for sexual play

Hunt 

How I do it

When given this command I crawl slowly on my hands and knees with my whole body as low to the ground as I can as if I’m stalking prey (usually in the form of a toy or my Owner). 

Uses 

  • Great fun when playing hide and seek with toys
  • Allows you and others to admire your pets hunting prowess

Knead 

How I do it

This command is pretty simple. I just start kneading whatever I am currently touching – as if I’m making bread. If I’m not wearing my mitts I tend to curl my fingers into the palm of my hand to knead so I don’t accidentally hurt anyone… 

Unless it’s a soft blanket because then i want to touch as much of it as humanly possible

Uses  

  • Encouraging your kitten to relax 
  • A great start to cuddle time with your pet
  • Good for self soothing nerves or excess energy
  • Combines well with the companion position

Clicks

How I do it

When my Owner clicks their fingers it’s the equivalent of “come here” for me and I will crawl over to them or to whenever they have indicated they want me.

 The verbal command “come” has little effect on my kitten side, clicking with verbal encouragement to “come here” gets my attention when I’m in a kitten space.

Uses

  • Get your pet where you want them
  • Following this up with the tail down position to keep them there


Leash Training

I’ve only recently started leash training with my Owner (as of a few weeks ago) and I’m so excited to see how this develops!!

How I do it

At the moment when my leash is on I treat it like a mobile companion command. 

This means that I try to stay at my Tops right side so my shoulder is in line with his leg, whether he is moving around or standing still. When he is still I like to sit down, mainly because I am a lazy pet and if I get distracted they usually manage to get my attention through clicking or a verbal command to ‘come’ or ‘follow’.

Uses

  • Have your kitten automatically follow you around
  • Keep your pet close and keep your freedom of movement
  • A physical reminder of your power exchange and your pets place

Would you or have you tried training? 

I’d really like to hear about your experiences and ideas below!

LilSuccubuss