What is Pet Play?
Pet Play is when someone role plays some kind of domesticated animal (AKA a pet) within a BDSM context.
What does Pet play looks like?
Storytime!
The room is lit with a warm yellow glow, the smell of vanilla – His signature – drifts through the room.
The door opens a crack and His pet slips into the room – still steaming from her shower – flashing him a smile before burying herself in His arms.
He chuckles and asks
“Are you ready to be my kitten, pet?”
She wriggles in excitement and nods eagerly.
Ears are collected, placed on her head – adjusted briefly by practiced hands as she is instructed;
“Tail up”
Obediently she moves into position.
Waiting.
A soft mewl escapes her lips as her tail is inserted – the veil of her kitten space begins to settle over her.
She slides to the floor and butts her head against his leg affectionately. He sits and begins to scratch behind her ears, down her neck. Mewls and purrs announce her descent into kitten mode as she basks in the affection
After a while, he stands. Rummaging through a drawer. His kitten watches avidly and as he reveals a small silver torch
Deeming his offering unworthy of sitting up his kitten wanders off to settle in her spot on the floor
A bright red dot appeared.
Dancing in front of her nose almost as if it’s teasing her,
mocking her hunting skills.
Her eyes narrow and she shifts into a hunter’s crouch
Wriggles her butt… pounces and..
What? It was right there!
The dot dances just beyond her paws and she prepares to pounce again.
He chuckles watching his kitten chasing the laser back and forth across the room.
Not so secretly enjoying the view of a mostly naked girl crawling around his room.
Eventually, she comes to rest at his feet, exhausted…
“Awh is my kitten all worn out?”
“Why don’t you come have some cuddles?” he asks, patting the bed.
Purring she climbs onto the bed settling herself over his chest.
They stay like this for a while, until he signals her to shift spaces with the request
“Can I have my girl back?”
She Nods
A few minutes and kisses later the heavy blanket of her kitten space has been lifted.
She looks up and grins
“Thank you! That was so much fun!”
“You’re welcome pet” he murmurs, kissing her forehead.
This is one super cute and fluffy example of a pet play scene.
One of the awesome things about pet play is how easily it can meld and change according to your kinks, moods, or wants.
So it can be cute and light and fluffy
It can be dark and twisted as fuck
It can be in the quiet moments when you are having a coffee at the end of the day,
It’s completely up to you!
Things commonly found in pet play scenes are;
- Training (think positions, commands)
- Playing with toys
- Begging for treats (puppy dog eyes, whining, positions for edible or more physical rewards insert cheesy porno music here)
- Walking your pet on a leash
- Eating from bowls
- Bondage
- Impact
- Movement and vocal restrictions
Why people enjoy it?
Roleplaying a pet can be a fun new way to receive service from an s-type
Or
A nice way to relax and be taken care of
Or
A different way to express submission (crawling after your master, pawing his leg for attention, non-verbal physical expressions of love and affection)
Adds to the intensity of a submissive mindset
Playing the role of the human is an opportunity to care for and spoil your partner
The increased level of reliance on the “human” for needs/wants of the pet (such as rest, food, water, play) can increase the focus and intensity of a scene.
Pet play overall
- Can be a cool combination of playful and sexy
- Melds well with other kinks so there is a lot to play with
- Can be a different flavor of power exchange
- Can be A fetish
- is fun
Types of pet play
So your most commonly seen pet play types are;
- Kitten play
- Puppy play
- Pony Play
- Piggy Play
- Cow Play
- Human Pets – this is when you roleplay as a pet but do not roleplay as a particular animal or with specific animal traits such as barking, meowing etc
PSA
You can play whatever kind of animal you want providing they are at least kinda domesticated
I recently discovered the concept of dragon pet play – which is both AWESOME and proof that the only limit is your imagination
Myths
Beastiality
Pet Play is not about an attraction to actual animals. It’s about humans roleplaying
It is all or nothing when it comes to pet play and sex
Pet Play seems to be one of those subcultures that people believe has to be ether
As pure and virginal as the Virgin Mary
Or a bad porno
Mostly it’s somewhere in the middle of those two expectations and will vary person to person.
Only s-types can be pets
No!
This one both makes me grumpy and makes me laugh.
It’s like saying only males can be dominants.
Anyone on any side of the slash can roleplay as a pet if they want to.
Just like anyone of any gender identity can be a Dominant or a Submissive
Where to start
Research as much as possible!!
Here are some links to get you started:
And after you’ve researched like a mad man, maybe tested some stuff out independently
Negotiate with your partner
Not sure how to negotiate well?
Well here’s something I prepared earlier… Spoiler it’s more research links…
Safety Tips
Some things to consider when negotiating
Aka
Mistakes I made that really screwed me over and I don’t want you to suffer through
Knee Pads
Even if you don’t have joint issues I cannot stress this enough:
BUY SOME KNEE PADS
Seriously if you are going to be on all fours your knees are going to take some rough treatment.
Carpet burn, bruising, painful knees for literal DAYS (I didn’t have knee pads and I decided to play on a hardwood floor just this once- Do NOT make my mistake please)
Safewords
This is a BDSM activity so you absolutely need a safeword.
Id recommend the traffic light system because it’s easy to understand and remember
Green – I’m good, lets keep going!
Yellow/Orange – I need you to slow down and/or check in on me
Red – STOP RIGHT NOW
If your pet space is non-verbal decide and agree on a physical safe sign instead of a word.
I, for example, like to use a FIRM double-tap anywhere on my partner’s body.
If I can’t reach them,
I’ll knock/tap/stomp on whatever surface I happen to be on as loudly as possible.
If you have any examples of what pet play looks like for you, I would love to see your comments below!
It would be a huge help for future posts and play dates!
